Divorce and Life Beyond It

Divorce is a hard subject to try and discuss. There are many variables that play into why a divorce happens. I am in no position to say what is right or wrong when it comes to divorces. I do understand we need to do all we can and see what we can do to try and fix problems before we go straight to divorce. This changes the family dynamic in many way. The children are sometimes are affected more than anyone else in the process. There is no good way to balance time with each parent without complication to the family but making the children share the time that should be split. In cases of abuse, or infidelity, I fins divorce to be acceptable, but divorce it is not a get out of jail free card. Many things are involved in this. 

We cannot judge those how have been divorce before because we do not know the whole story. We can use divorce to get away from someone who we stopped trying to be with. Either way, it is a sensitive subject and we need to be careful. 

Before divorce is brought up in a struggling relationship, seeking help may solve problems. Couples therapy gives a time for someone else to step in and help resolve things the couple cannot to themselves. The children sometimes do not understand that the moment in time what is going on. The children can feel the blame can be on them. They may need to seek help to gain understanding and clarification. The divorce in difficult situations my bring new growth to the family that was not possible before. It takes a lot of courage to step up from a difficult time like that to start over. If the person is not careful, the step parent my cause worst problems on the family more than what was going on before.

 I have seen many families to step up and come together with other families and become one. It takes time to recover from it. Understand who you are, and get your own life together the best that you can before moving on. Sometimes we do not see the problem is ourselves. 

We must do all we can to prevent this from happening in our own life and we can do this by communicating and loving our family.